The Importance Of Privacy In A Relationship

The Importance Of Privacy In A Relationship

The major cause of many relationship fights are due to privacy violation, many relationships has ended or gone sour due to invasion of privacy. Marriages aren't an exception to this problem, many marriages have ended because one person is invading the partners privacy. Although being a couple entails not hiding things from our other half but guess what? It also doesn't permit us to snoop around other people's things. As men and women we have the natural need for privacy, once this is established in a relationship then we can start feeling comfortable around each other.

In the early stage of every relationship the line of privacy is naturally drawn, is it respected and acknowledged by both parties, but when the relationship has aged a little bit, complacency steps in. This is the stage where both are comfortable around each other, this time there will be fewer dates and flowers. Now at this stage privacy is then taken for granted.

Importance of privacy

Before we jump into the importance of privacy, let's see some important questions such as. Is it okay to read your mates emails ? Is it alright to go through their clothing ? Cars, cell phone or computer e.t.c. Well it's not a good idea but some might say it's okay because we are a couple, if so what is the agenda or is it just an excuse to snoop ? Although some do these things with genuine intentions while others, well can't say for sure. Either way privacy needs to be communicated and understood in every relationship, because there's a huge difference between looking for something and being inquisitive.

Privacy in relationships can not be over emphasized because the health of the relationship solely depends on the line drawn on privacy and how well it is communicated and understood. Here are some of it's few importance in a relationship;

Long-lasting relationship

Having enough space or privacy in a relationship is more important for the couple's happiness than any other factor that determine a relationship. If there is space and privacy in a relationship, it'll grow and last long. Research has shown that space and privacy is an essential ingredient in every relationship. Snooping through phones and other personal belongings will only kill the relationship. Every human has the natural need to have their privacy.


Privacy is about respect and also respecting your mate. If your partner has a desire to keep something or a part of them private, then leave it private. It is disrespectful to disregard the wishes of our mates which in most cases we have no compelling reason to do so. Many people are comfortable having their partner go through their stuff and be okay with it but when they aren't okay with it, then we ought to respect that decision. It's quite simple, if you respect someone you won't go through their stuff if not permitted to do so. In other words privacy entails respect for others and their personal boundaries.


If the line is drawn on privacy it means there is trust in such relationship. When you ever feel the need to go through their cell phone or computer then there is a problem. This is the time when doubt begins to set in, trust issues and uncertainty begins to eat you up. If you ever feel there is a change in your mate's attitude, enthusiasm, intimacy or even their work hours, rather than go all CSI or Rosewood on them, i'll suggest it's time to have a face to face conversation. In most cases it might be work fatigue or not enough spicing in the relationship. Try to figure things out together and not to be a detective in the relationship.

Peace of mind

In a relationship where there are boundaries and there is a full understanding of personal boundaries, you are guaranteed your peace of mind because trust me when i say this. If you let the thought of snooping through your mate's stuff become a habit, you will not be the same again. You will always have reasons to doubt their actions, you'll become the inquisitive type. Argue about little things that do not even count for anything. Life is too short to be stressed with things like that, give yourself a reason to be happy and have that peace of mind. There are other things life will throw at you, so deal with those and not add to life's problem by looking for things that will in the end hurt you. Give yourself peace of mind, trust will always overrule so trust your partner and enjoy a peaceful relationship.

In conclusion we should study our partner and understand them. If in doubt of anything speak to them have the talk like adults, don't violate personal boundaries in the name of snooping around, because always in the end you'll find things that will hurt you in all cases. So draw the line of privacy and let it be well communicated and acknowledged and you'll have yourself a healthy relationship. Always remember that trust overrules.

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Wizkid And Linda Ikeji Popular Blogger At It Again

The beef between Wizkid and popular blogger Linda Ikeji has been going for quite some time now, the both have been going at each other lately when reports surfaced that the musician fathered another child with a Guinean lady who resides in the United States.

Wizkid and linda ikeji go head to head

Linda recently published a post on her blog that the musician's babymama by the name, Binta Diallo called Wizkid a 'deadbeat dad', this publication got Wizkid very furious with her and attacked her on Social Media. Ever since that incident the afro pop star hasn't let go of the slanderous publication about him.

Only recently the blogger published a blog post saying the star was facing eviction problem in his Lekki home, is that even possible? I recent published a post showing you Wizkid's newly acquired mansion in Los Angeles, now how the hell is he facing eviction problem when he just acquired himself a home in L.A. Wizkid decided to bash her on social media, he took to her instagram page to show how angry he was about her recent image damaging publications about him.

Linda recently shared a photo on her instagram page showing off her new purse, a Fendi hand bag with this caption

“My favourite new bag! Saw it on my style icon @upcloseandstylish page and i had to get one! #Fendi” 

Wizkid took to the comment section of her I.G post and fired back at her, he was savage lmao. here's the post and Wikid's comment, trust me he's savage lmao.

Wizkid bashes Linda Ikeji
     Image source: Instagram

Seems the afro pop star and owner of StarBoy Record label wasn't satisfied, he still came back to comment this on the post and this is what he said:

“Just know that we balling over here! #UglyOldBitchLinda!”

After the shades on her instagram post she took to her blog to write a very lengthy post to defend her integrity. Here's what she wrote on her blog below:

“So my darling little ‘friend’ Wizkid came on my IG page this morning to blast me for writing yesterday that he was given quit notice at the Lekki home he claimed he bought some years ago, which he actually rented. He threatened to beat me up…called me an ugly old bitch…(I’m ugly? lol) says I don’t have a man (crying over that..) and called my mum a loser…(what a child).

 Anyway, all that don’t matter, people have said worse to me…what I wanted to address is the part where he said I slept with his director and he left me in a hotel…that one I will definitely want to address because some people actually believe it. That my dear friends, is a lie! Please continue…
First and foremost, I've never met Wizkid one on one. I've only seen him once in real life on stage at a show a few years ago. I've never met anybody who is his director. Guess he put that line in his comments to defame me. You that mad that people now know the house is not yours? Lol.

Trust me, if I knew someone was Wizkid’s director, I’d rather kill myself than sleep with him or any other entertainer for that matter (except maybe he’s my husband..hehe) because I know how some of these entertainers are…they kiss and tell a lot. You can’t afford to be messing around in their circle. So, no, I have NEVER slept with Wizkid's director. I live a celibate life..most of the time. (Though, that has to end soon…I’m getting old and missing out on that part of life…lol)

 I've always been an advocate of women respecting their bodies and owning their own. And I feel sex should only happen when you’re in committed relationship (that is if you can’t wait till marriage) and I recommend celibacy for a long as you’re not committed to someone. There’s absolutely no dignity in sleeping around and messing around with different men. It’s ugly and God don’t like ugly. So no, I’m not that woman, and will never be that woman. Nice try, Wizkid!
Having said that, I’m sure, you wonder why Wizkid is so mad at me? To be honest, I don’t know either. All I know is that his beef with me started a long time ago but he decided to start bashing me online after I refused a meeting with him. A few months ago, he asked his PR people to contact me, that he wanted to talk to me. For some reason, he thought I didn't like him and I was hurting his image online. He wanted to see how I could write more positive things about him but I turned down the meeting. Not that I have anything against him, I sincerely don’t! I think he’s an amazing talent and one of the few music stars in Nigeria with a midas touch. So this wasn't personal. I just didn't want to meet him. If he lobbies me then it means I won’t be able to write anything about him anymore…and my job is to write…about everything, including entertainers.
I am cordial with some of them…many of them I have never met. I try to stay away from gatherings where they are because the more friends you make in the entertainment industry, the less you can write. And that will inadvertently affect your work. The few ones that I call acquaintances, it’s hard to write about them because you feel you’re cool with them and even when you write, they call you to complain. So, the fewer ‘friends’ I have in the entertainment industry, the better my job will be.

 So Wizkid can bash me all he wants…but I will continue to do my job. Maybe he thinks the more he bashes me, then I will stop writing about him? Won’t work. But meanwhile, if he tells a lie about me, I will address it. LIB plans to be around for a long time…some of these people will come and go! :-).

Thanks everyone and Wizkid fans for reading my response. Oh and by the way, did I mention that his Porsche car is also on hire purchase? Oh shit, I just mentioned that! And no, darling, you’re not 25! We know your real age! Continue to have an amazing career while I watch and continue to celebrate you. Kisses”

These two will keep fighting for a very long time. Share your thoughts

Leave The Friend Zone

A lot of people are trapped in the friend zone, majority being the guys although there are some ladies who are in the friend zone as well. Why be in the friend zone when you can be the center of attraction in some else's life ?

What's The friend Zone ?

The friend zone is oblivion where romantic feelings are jailed and doing times, this is the worst position someone can be in, if they have feelings for someone.
When you develop romantic feelings for someone and that person only sees the relationship as only being friends, then you're definitely in the friend zone. If two people are around each other a lot one will develop romantic feelings for the other person and then confronts the other person about his/her feelings which is then sent into an oblivion because unfortunately the other person only sees him/her as a friend.


John has known Ada for few years now and the two are good friends, but then John starts having romantic feelings for Ada. John speaks to Ada about his feelings towards her but Ada tells John " we are friends for over a year now i would not want this to jeopardize our friendship. I like you as a friend, infact your are my best buddy and like a brother to me"

Now John is in the zone for real, Shout out to all the people doing times in the friend zone, be strong you'll be home in due time.

Friend Zone

How To Leave The Friend Zone

Although it is quite an impossible mission to escape from the "friend zone" even Tom Cruise would find it quite difficult to accomplish this mission. Even though being in the friend zone sometimes can be a life sentence it is still very possible to breakout of that jail. Here are some "How To's" to help you out of the dreaded friend zone.

Break barriers

 To be able to escape the friend zone you need to break some barriers especially the "Touch Barrier".
It is quite obvious that the distinct difference between Friendship and a Romantic Relationship is the way and manner in which they touch. Most people in the friend zone find it difficult to romantically touch the person they have feelings for. Well that's a good thing being that you want to remain Mr nice guy for the rest of your life. There are two ways of touching someone, platonic and romantic touch, although people have their own boundary. So go ahead touch them sometimes in a platonic way and sometimes in a romantic way, because touching people communicates to them that you find them attractive. If they don't like it they will tell you don't always wait for them to touch you first. You can reach for the for hands, shoulders, stroke their hair in a playful manner. take the risk you are better off risking it than being Jailed in the friend zone for a life time.

Make them feel you are wanted

Although this is a risk as considered by a lot of people, but it does work for many and i personally feel this is important to helping one escape the friend zone. Go out with other people, hangout with the opposite sex, go on dates, let them know you are wanted by others. Stop hanging with your jailer all day, you might think being by their side always will them be attracted to you ? well that's a big dream. Don't make them feel you're the center of the world for you. Doing this makes them know you're wanted by other Guys/girls and this can set off their competitive nature to your favor.

Ask them on a date

You can ask them on a date don't always just be a friend plan your prison break like Michael Scofield, they might hesitate but you can always ask again next time, also you can talk a stroll with them around the park, your streets and hold hands if possible (recommended). This a good step towards your escape from the dreaded friend zone. Most times we find ourselves in the friend zone because they feel you are not brave enough to take things to another level, be romantic on your first few dates, hold him/her romantically after all it's date. Make an effort or remain in the friend zone.

Don't be a Nice guy or Sweet girl always

You always put others feelings before yours there by making them comfortable at the cost of your own discomfort. If you're that type then you'll find it had to pressure them into a relation, you hold back on many things most especially your feelings. When  you make other people's feelings your priority, you're indirectly telling them your feelings do matter. Try to find that happy balance.

Finally make a move

The most important step is to make a move, most of us find ourselves in the zone because we keep our feelings bottled up inside or we are too afraid to let our feelings known, probably because we don't want to loose the friendship. Make a move today and escape the friend zone, and be a free person today by doing these steps.


Why be friend zoned when you can be the center of attraction in another person life, there people out there who fantasized about you, but you would not noticed cause aside being trapped in the friend zone you're also blinded.

Slime Season 3 (simple review)

Slime Season 3 album art

Jeffery Lemar Williams also known as Young Thug is an American rapper from Atlanta Georgia, released the third installment of the Slime Season series which dropped few days back precisely 25-03-2016. The much anticipated SS3 is finally here.

Thugger's Slime Season 3 was scheduled to drop within the festive season between the period of Christmas and New Year but was delayed due to some other reasons and finally released end of March 2016.

The Slime Season 3 was quite hyped before it's release m. We all saw the funeral procession on 6th street in order to promote the tape. Although this strategy is not the usual an artist would use for promoting their project but I personally applaud his approach used in promoting the SS3, quite remarkable I must say. Recently Young Thug's style of announcing his project and events has taken a unique twist, only recently he was seen riding on a horse around the streets of Atlanta in support of his upcoming “HY!£UN35” tour. Likewise on Friday he surprised the public with yet another colossal way of announcing his project which was the Slime Season 3, this time he did a funeral procession down in Austin, Texas walking through 6th street with a marching band.

Funeral procession on 6th street
            Image source: Instagram

Fans had the opportunity of taking pictures of this remarkable and first of it's kind  technique Thugger applied in announcing the release date of SS3. Few minutes later pictures of the procession flooded the Internet on social media. They walked the streets carrying a black casket sprayed with the release date of SS3 and YSL logo. Passerby stopped to look and even take pictures, fans applauded this strategy saying we need more of this promotional tactics.
Also a track off the SS3 “Digits” produced by highly sort for producer “London On Da Track” was premiered on Beats 1 radio a day before the release.

 SS3 ( My View )

The eight track tape though a little underwhelming because I expected at least a twelve track, sure turned out to be great if you are a Thugger fan, although the purpose for this review is not to make you dislike or like Young Thug. If by now you're not a fan of his works, I doubt that you'll ever be a fan.

The tape house some big joints with the opening track titled “With Them” produced by London On Da Track. The tape also includes previously heard track “Worth It” which was released and followed with a visual last month. The Slime Season 3 doesn't have many features only one feature which was on Track 4 “Slime Sh*t” feat Yak Gotti.

Slime Season 3 Tracklist

1• With Them
2• Memo
3• Drippin'
4• Slime Sh*t feat Yak Gotti
5• Digits
6• Worth it
7• Tattoos 
8• Problems 

That's the full Tracklist of Slime Season 3. 

Opening the project with the track “With Them” which was also the same song he played on the MSG aux cord during Yeezy season 3. 
The SS3 is a wonderful and Cohesive project carefully put together and a continuation of the Slime Season sound we all know but still different from previous installments of the Slime season series. With them being the opening track is a wonderful piece of art produced by “Mike WILL Made It” and then followed by Memo which is my favorite of them all. Memo is track 2 of the SS3 produced by London On Da Track. Whenever these two link up we always expect fire and that fire is this track “Memo” with lines like “when I die I want a hundred bandz inside my casket”
Digits is track 6 another track that stands  out in the SS3 tape produced by London On Da Track, sorry guys I'm a fans of London's productions. The final song on there I love is track 8 “Problems” a track that was leaked early this year and sites at that time called the track “Free Offset” 
A lovely joint nicely delivered by Young Thug and his crazy voice. Slime Season 3 is definitely a good one. 
You can listen to Slime Season 3 Here.

Young Thug is a controversial rapper who has had social media beef with artist like The Game, Lil Wayne, Future ( Hendrix ) and also his friend who's also one of his favorite producer Metro Boomin, you can check that out Here

I most certainly feel Young Thug is a genius of his own style. Happy Easter from Cool City! Thank you.

Possible Link Up (Wizkid and Jidenna)

Wizkid who is Nigeria's Afro Pop icon and a multi award winning artist, has been making major moves this year and we say a big ups to him and also congrats on his new home in L.A. The star who is currently on his world tour, is said to have put his tour on hold and is currently in the studio with Nigerian foreign Hip Pop act Jidenna.
All indications points that the both are working on a collaboration, we should expect waves on the radio anytime soon.

  According to 2015 Billboard interview, Jidenna the Classic Man said he has always fancied Wizkid's artistry. Jidenna said to 2015 Billboard in his interview: “ I love his voice, I love his production team. I was just hanging out with them recently. i'm looking forward to what's to come, and I love his catalog already. ”

We could remember in June 2015, when the both act performed at the African Festival and the reception was massive and the both artist thrilled the crowd with their awesome performance.

The two were spotted in the studio, laughing and having the fun. picture below.

Wizkid and Jidenna in the studio

Wizkid who is the owner of the record label StarBoy which house the baddest Producer duo, Legendury Beat who are currently Nigeria's hottest producers. They bagged themselves the Producer Of The Year Award at the HEADIES 2015.
Also at the Headies 2015 Wizkid won the Song of the Year Award for his single “Ojuelegba” and also bagged the Best RnB/Pop Album of the Year  “A.Y.O” and majority of the songs on the album were produced by Legendury Team especially the song of the year Ojuelegba which was recently remixed by Drake and Skepta. The song Ojuelegba is worth the song of the year even Alicia Keys danced to the song on her Instagram page where she posted a video of her dancing to the lovely tune.

Wizkid will be back to performing at his world tour in a few days as he thrills fans in Zambia, Freetown and Malaysia among other countries.

Should A Musician Blog

Writing a blog post

Blogging is no longer a new trend in the world today, with the help of Google's Blogger and Wordpress blogging has become easy for everybody, even if they have little or no knowledge of coding, JavaScript e.t.c people can now blog provided they can write.

Are musicians supposed to blog ? Well it all depends on personal preference, but generally it is a good idea regardless.
Blogging is beneficial to a musician because it helps him or her connect with their fans on a more intellectual ground, plus the fans get to see another side of the artist they never knew before. 

   There are many advantages as to why a musician should blog, ranging from promoting their brand to reaching out to their fan base via another medium apart from their music. Blogging can help grow the fan base of an artist, due to the fact that a lot of people read blogs. 

For the purpose of this article we will look at some of the advantages of blogging for a musician and some topics they should or can write on.
Here are some the advantages and reasons why are musician should blog and also things they should blog about.


The musician can use their website to review their songs and also their album, they can also let their fans rate the song/album. 
They can make the post interactive by giving their fans the opportunity to contribute and also give their own personal review as well. Doing so creates a deeper relationship between the artist and his fans. Also the artist can develop more on the craft from the constructive and objective critics and reviews from fans which can go a long way in helping their career grow.

Show fans Another Side Of You: 

Your fans see and only view you as a performing artist, but with you blogging you're showing them another side of you.
Generally fans of musicians just know them as musicians but by engaging fans via the blog post on their website, they will see and know a new side of the musician.

Blog About Upcoming Shows: 

You can blog about your upcoming shows and telling your fans about your next event. You can also publish your event schedule for the entire year giving fans the opportunity to know about your event schedule of the year and their venues. This way the fans already know the events lined up for summer, spring and so on and can plan for these shows and try to fit them into their own personal schedule.

More Traffic: 

The musician will get more traffic to their website if they also blog on the same website. Before now people visit an artist website only to download songs, stream music, and watch videos. But when a fan visit the site and finds a section on the site dedicated to blogging, after downloading or streaming they can take time out to check the blog post the artist has published and also read them. This is a guarantee they will always come back to your website, they can also stay up to date by subscribing to newsletter. This will bring high influx of people visiting the site on daily basis, there by giving the website great traffic.

Staying Relevant: 

Blogging helps an artist stay or remain relevant in the scene. Musicians do not put out music everyday so what will they do to remain relevant until their next single or album? I think blogging is a good idea to remain relevant until their next material.
   You can blog about personal things like your pet, the vacations, your road trips, backstage experiences, interviews e.t.c. Share these experiences with your fans and they will find it interesting. You can also write about other things you like aside music, blog about those things that fascinates you and share them with your audience, this way you will stay relevant always since you don't dish out music on daily basis.

Competition and Polls: 

The artist can organize competitions on their website or conduct polls. They can have competitions such as remixes or covers of their own songs done by fans. While also in the spirit of sport they can also organize fantasy football league. Fans will enter the competition with an entry fee or sometimes free of charge depending on the type of competition, and stand a chance of winning cash prizes and other gift prizes.
The celebrity can also conduct polls on the blog about their fans favorite song of all time or favorite album, favorite video e.t.c. Have your fans tell you their favorite song of all time or favirite album, your best video.
This is also an analytic tool for the artist  to know his best work either as a single or an entire album.

   These are the many benefits and reason why a musician should blog. 
Blogging is fun and easy, also it is advantageous to the musician by a way of promoting the brand and career, gain more fans and grow their fan base. 
They can also promote their album and single via blogging.

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